Marriage if a funny thing - it is an agreement between two people to live together and have a life together through "richer and poorer; good times and bad; in health and sickness" until the end of life. I have a friend is in many ways an inspiration to me and she has often written about her and her husband celebrating that they have not killed each other. I find this fitting way of looking at marriage.
My husband in many ways is my best friend. He is the person that I want to go see scary movies, funny movies, share a bowl of popcorn with. I love hanging out with him and doing many different things. But that is the easy part of marriage - that is the rich, good and healthy times. It is the hard times the difficult times where you sometimes just want to punch the other person that makes marriage tough.
It reminds me silly enough of the movie Just Married and the speech the Dad
Some days your mother and me loved each other. Other days we had to work at it. You never see the hard days in a photo album... but those are the ones that get you from one happy snapshot to the next. I'm sorry your honeymoon stunk but that's what you got dealt. Now you gotta work through it. Sarah doesn't need a guy with a fat wallet to make her happy. I saw how you love this girl. How you two lit each other up. She doesn't need anymore security than that.
So to my husband: three years ago we stood together and made each other promises, we haven’t always done well on those promises but like we know they are always a work in progress. They were simple promises based on love and respect. We have had our ups, downs and fights. But through everything there has been love. I am amazed every day that we ended up together and at all of the crazy, stressful and amazing adventures we have been on together. But there is no one else in the world that I would rather: drive up a crazy dangerous mountain road; zip line; explore abandoned buildings; cook; cuddle; take trains, planes and cars with than you. So here is to the last three years of not killing each other and here is to the next year and lifetime of crazy adventures. I look forward to continue growing with you and falling more in love with you each and every day.